strength of character

This past week, I have noticed something a lot. What has come to mind so often is the incredible amount of strength it may take to do things in a way that’s true to your heart. Of course, being who I am and what I do, this really rings true in how I work with both horses and people.

If you are reading this, chances are your own personal philosophy of horsemanship has a strong basis in the partnership or relationship between horse and human. You may or may not have figured out how to let that be the guiding force in how you interact with your horse, and formulate opinions about yourself for that matter. If you are struggling with letting that be the guiding force, and yet it speaks to your heart, it’s understandable. This is not the governing principle in the majority of the horse world.

There are many unwritten rules and opinions that you may have had cited to you on your journey. Especially when your actions don’t match those of a more traditional nature in the horse world, you may have been the victim of such sharing. I know I have been in and around many training barns where the thought process of why you own a horse has to do with what that horse is capable of producing either through their athletic abilities or capabilities to win awards. If the horse can’t deliver what you desire, you move on to a new one.

Now, I am not saying that this approach is wrong. I am just saying that it is wrong for me. Yet, I hear voices, both inside and outside my head, voicing this opinions a lot. The truth is with the situations and circumstances that are in my life right now, I don’t ride every single day. In fact, sometimes weeks can go by when I don’t actually get on my horses. For me, that is o.k. The choices that I have made, and the directions I am choosing to travel make this true for me right now. At this point I have come to grips with this, but it has taken time, and sometimes I still have to remind myself that doing things my way is the best for me. I still interact with my horses every day, and build the relationships I have with them. I just don’t get on their backs.

I will admit that when I first started bucking the system, so to speak, I didn’t share much with other people. Coming from a dressage training barn background and it’s perspective, I was really wasting time and talent. In my perspective, I was completely devoted to being a new mom and learning about horses and myself in a whole new way. And, I loved those things with all my heart. The more I learned, the more my confidence grew in doing things my way, and then I was able to share. But, I had to build up my ego strength in order to be able to do that.

Many of the people who I work with are working hard to gain confidence with their horses, and sometimes in their lives. Staying true to their hearts, can be such a challenge when they hear over and over again opinions such as: “why don’t you just get on?”, “is that all that you’re going to do?” or “I wouldn’t let that horse get away with that”. Putting your values, and what is most important to you and your horse first is essential to your confidence and happiness. It is what you deserve. Yet, it takes a lot of conviction in your beliefs and strength of character to do so. If you ever need a good dose of encouragement, spend some time gazing into your horse’s eye. Bet that will help! Doing things in your way, that align with your beliefs and what is true to your heart is what your horse needs you to do.

If you need some encouragement or validation for doing things in a way that respects your horse and the relationship, share your story. Maybe we’ll create a revolution in how all of that is viewed! Wouldn’t that be a grand thing…..

something about american idol

Last night, it started.  American Idol began televising their auditions for the 2012 season.  This is good news in our household.  I know that might be a little surprising and seem quite off topic for what I usually write about here, but there is a connection. 

I love watching people make their dreams come true.  That is why I enjoy watching American Idol.  Listening to some of the back stories, and hearing someone with talent sing and pursue their passion quite often gets me teary eyed.  I resonate deeply with this aspect of the show, and of course, in real life when I see people reaching for what their hearts desire.  In fact, heart desires are a big part of why I work with people and horses as I do. 

I was at a place in my life where I had lost my dreams.  In fact, recognizing this is what really started my self-growth journey.  As I progressed with my healing and gained more knowledge and insights, I knew that I wanted to help other people from getting to that stuck, dark place.  Helping students and clients map out a plan to get them to their heart desires is something I will sign up to do over and over again.  Sometimes, we have to dig deep and clean out lots of “gunk” to unearth their dreams and passions, but the effort always proves to be worthwhile. 

That is the link between the tv show and my work with people and horses.  Next post, I’ll share another strong sentiment behind Hidden Promise.  Hope you are in touch with your dreams, and hot on their pursuit!