a beginner once again

September 23, 2013
Today was my first day loose lungeing on my own with Little Horse. The day started out with him watching me wherever I went while I was doing chores and walking around the fence line. (Just like Bob used to do.) Then, when I went out to the gate to start, he nickered at me. He has never done that before. I thought that was interesting…..
I am such a beginner! And, that is o.k. I am going to enjoy the newness and fun of learning different ways of looking at things and acquiring new tools with which to enhance the relationships I have with my horses. I remind myself of this as I fumble around with the lead tied to the halter I am holding as I also try to get myself in the desired position to try this intriguing thing called loose lungeing.
Today I wanted to feel what was happening with my Little Horse, as well as observe how he reacted to my body language and movement. I took things really slow, and felt very victorious when I got him to walk ¾ of a circle around me, and then drew him to me by backing up. We did this in both directions, and then I stopped. Remembering what Kathy taught me about muscle memory and mileanation (sp?) I wanted to end on this good note. Plus, I felt connected to my horse, and didn’t want to diminish that by trying for more. I also remembered to walk away from him, instead of letting him leave. I know that my body positioning and language was not spot on, and that I would fall into the more familiar patterns of lungeing with a line, but I am going to go with the fact that I accomplished what I set out to, and worry about the fine tuning later. I am sure that I will find out soon if this is not the correct approach! Excited for day two.

September 24, 2013
Another tiny nicker today! Great way to start things off. I think I am getting better at leading with calm, which is kind of remarkable since I’m not all the way sure yet if I’m leading the “right” way. Trying to stick with accomplishing a small goal in the way that feels best and connected and refining later.
Little Horse actually does better to the right. I started to the left again today, and realized that I still need more help with the concept of closing the door because Little Horse kept trying to turn to the right. I got a circle left with a couple pauses and then he turned toward me. I stopped him there and went up to him. I thought the pauses I got from Little Horse rather than the running around and chasing the other horses that he did before when Kathy was out here was a step in the right direction. At least in the direction of leading with calm. Adagio! My new favorite word.
Heading to the right, I actually got a circle and a half, and then drew Little Horse to me through backing up. I stopped him in his 4 foot bubble and told him how amazingly talented and smart he was. He agreed with me.

energy drainers

In order to reach new goals, or create new habits (including increasing our confidence), we have to make sure we have enough energy. Deliberate and well thought out actions need our focus and attention, and they are the stuff that change is made of. Being that we have a finite amount of daily energy, taking stock of where we spend our energy can help us figure out how our valuable energy could be put to the most effective use.

An exercise that helps highlight what we should prioritize is making a list of those things that give us energy, and those that drain our energy. Then, what we want to do is work toward eliminating those things that drain our energy. Removing those things from the list will allow us to feel lighter, and have more energy to put toward those things that make our lives exciting and purposeful. Create more energizing moments in your day with just a little conscious effort. The payoff is well worth it!